Living in the now is a powerful tool for living your best life. It has been said that we are human beings, not human ‘doings’, and yet we constantly strive after ‘success’. This drive can distract and stress us, and keep us so focused on our daily grind to achieve “success” that we have little time to relax, or improve ourselves in ways we would like. It can also make us feel like we have no time for ourselves, maybe worrying our world will fall apart.
Let Go of the Past
Old habits die hard: we may be acting as our parents wanted us to act, or in total opposition to that. Yet, as an adult, we need to find our own way of living, not live as someone else thinks we should. We may be bearing a grudge from long ago or feel hurt by something that happened to us many years ago. These things keep us stuck in the past and unable to find the power of now. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for giving up the past, so we can enjoy the now.
Avoid Living In The Future
What we do now will determine our future. Dreaming of what it will be like when we get “there” or chasing our dreams means we miss out on the here and now.
Live In The Present
The grass is NOT always greener on the other side, even if it looks that way from your present position, as Petunia the Goose found when she left the safety of “now” in the farm meadow for the future of sweet grass on the wild hill in the distance.
The hill grass turned out to be dry and tasteless and there were wild animals who wanted to eat her. Sometimes, leaving for greener pastures is the best option but very often, it is a pipe dream that keeps us dreaming and avoiding living in the “now”. One of the best ways to avoid this is to cultivate an “attitude of gratitude” for what you have and focus on the positive side to your life.
It means being content and self-assured about who you are and what you want from life. And if you are this, you will also have a strong self-image. Being positive defines how you approach life and your expectations of what you will be and what you will achieve. Very often this can be reflected in your job, your sporting efforts and your business and personal relationships. Others are drawn to positive people, because they have the ability to lift our spirits and make us feel good about ourselves and our lives.
Someone with a positive attitude will have a buoyant outlook on life, they believe in themselves, their capabilities and talents and this opens them to seeing opportunities that come their way. They float over troubles, or like a rubber ball, bounce back again if they fall, as difficulties will not seem as significant and they have the ability to cope with them effortlessly. They are happier, healthier and more energetic.
Attitude, whether positive or negative, is infectious so choose to spend your time with positive uplifting people. When you choose to live your life with a positive attitude you will reach those lucky crossroads more often, the ones where opportunity and preparation meet.
Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Seneca
What An Opportunity!
Yes, our lives may seem difficult, yet every difficulty, every “impossibility” is an opportunity that can be handled brilliantly.
One person who faced what seemed like impossible odds was born to drug addicted parents, who eventually died of AIDS, was hungry most of the time and did not attend school very often: when she did she was ostracized because she was dirty and wore torn clothes. It is hard to imagine a much harder childhood. She was living on the streets at 15 years of age, yet rose above it to attend Harvard on a full scholarship and has since become a motivational speaker. You can read Liz Murray’s story (Title: Breaking Night) or view it.
Many other situations have also seemed impossible. Many people still alive never thought that human beings would walk on the moon in their lifetime. Orville and Wright had to overcome a great deal of scepticism to bring their vision of a flying machine into being. Nowadays we take aeroplanes for granted. Even motor cars have only been around for about 120 years and were originally termed “horseless carriages”, with people believing that horse drawn transport would never disappear, whereas nowadays it is mostly for pleasure.
What is YOUR Impossible Situation?
Are you facing an impossible situation? How can you turn that into an opportunity?
Sins Of Omission Or Commission?
Take control of your own life. If you want to do something, don’t wait to ask permission, do it and apologize afterwards if necessary. Provided it’s legal, ethical and moral, take responsibility for your own acts and decisions and take action. Of course, you suffer any consequences too but that’s what it means to be in control of your own life.
A sin of omission, means leaving something out, not doing it. If that’s because you didn’t “get permission”, ask yourself, who needs to give you permission? Does anyone? You’re an adult now, you don’t need to ask permission in many circumstances.
A sin of commission, is doing something that you didn’t gain permission to do. OK, in some circumstances that is wrong, you may have done something illegal, immoral or unethical but many sins of commission can be useful. While you did not get permission, you probably did not need it. And as an adult, you weighed up the risks and benefits and decided for yourself that one outweighed the other and that you were prepared for the consequences if anything went wrong.