Your subconscious, which always resents any change, may say to you: 'You don't believe any such thing.' But remeber that your subconscious mind in a sense is one of the greatest liars in existence. It concurs in and sends back to you your own errors about our abilities. You have created the negative attitude in your subconcsious and it gives this error back to you.
So just turn on your subconscious and say to it:' If you talk to your subconscious and say to it: 'Now look hare, I do believe that. I insist upon balieving it.' If you talk to your subconscious mind with that positiveness, in due course it will be convinced. One reason is because you are now feeding it positive thoughts. In other words, you are at last telling the truth to your subconscious. After a while your subconscious mind will begin to send back the truth to you, the truth being that with the help of Jesus Christ there isn't any obstacle you cannot overcome.
Happiness is not something you find, but rather something you create. Every day is not the same day. Everybody has a bad day. But it is not the end. Tomorrow is another day. You should focus on what you can change to convert the bad day into a bright rather on what you can’t change. If you learn from a defeat, you haven’t really lost.
Sometimes loosing for the sake of others happiness will make you feel more contented than winning the battle. You may have everything in life you wished for, if you help other people get what they want, you will find yourself in a state of immense contentment and tranquillity. So, it depends up on you how you create your own happiness, by winning the game of life or by making efforts to win it.
Always thinking of yourself will not make you winner every time but sometimes focusing on others needs may make you victorious. When you do a particular piece of work it is not necessary that each time you do it, you will win. Winning every time is not imperative, rather enjoying whatever you do is. Remember, sky is not the limit.